Thursday, January 13, 2011

Sometimes parents need to be slapped

Ok- I'll be the first to admit that I find it fascinating to watch Toddlers & Tiaras. Frankly Princess Bear is the kind of child that would LOVE to participate in pageants and part of me would love it too! I just know that the world is cruel and although I think my daughters gorgeous the rest of the world is not always kind. Anyway I digress. Last night I was cleaning and puttering around & I watched Toddlers & Tiaras. (no need for an intervention its not on my usual viewing schedule just an every once in awhile weird guilty pleasure). Last night was about 3 little girls named SamiJo, Jacklynn and Alexis. I'm going to focus on SamiJo's mom. This woman is so out of touch with reality it isn't even funny. SamiJo is her 4th child and evidently its a really good thing SamiJo was a girl (the other 3 are boys) because otherwise mommy might have been locked up on the metal ward because she so desperately wanted a girl. She wanted a girl so she could have her participate in pageants! She actually wanted to name the child "America" so she could go by Miss America. Yes the woman was apparently serious! I don't remember exactly how old SamiJo is but she was participating in the 12-23 month category. The mom's goal was Grand Supreme (don't quote me here but I think thats the title she was vying for). She actually had this baby spray tanned!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let me repeat that for those of you who didn't get it or don't believe it- a child under 2 years of age was spray tanned for a beauty pageant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OK- now I can go into the fact that our skin is our biggest organ and at least 60% of what we put on our skin is absorbed and this idiotic mother is possibly signing her child up for a lifetime of problems that might include cancer but I won't even go there. I just am in disbelief that the woman did that! Now I get that in pagents there is makeup but there are some really incredible organic options so ok. I get that hair is a big deal & this moms use extensions & wiglets. Its part of the crazy of it. You want the world you know that there are some things that just go along with it! Alexis' mom dragged her to the salon to get her unibrow waxed and the child was hysterical (hey mom- have you ever heard of threading? Lots less painful and equally effective!) I just don't get this mom's that are dragging this kids around and a)compromising their wellbeing or b) making them crazy with the prep work needed. How can you say your child loves being in pageants when the prep work leaves them in tears or might possibly have them in chemo &/or radiation later????

Please understand that I'm not bashing the pageants themselves. If its your idea of fun go with it but when its an all consuming, health wrecking, hysteria producing hobby maybe its time to reconsider?

Also before someone jumps my case that there is no proof that spray on tanning is a bad thing can I also remind you that there was no conclusive proof that tanning bed tanning was dangerous until recently. I'm also the first to say that the idea just royally pisses me off. I LOVE tanning. I was willing to take the risk when tanning was truly one of the only things that relaxed me and helped with my SAD. Now when you tell me that there is no doubt that it can is cancer causing I'm just pissed.

Now back to crazy moms- I just want to know if these moms watch this episodes of Toddlers & Tiaras and if so what they think. Better yet- have you seen it? What do you think?


Jen on the Edge said...

That all sounds horrifying. There's no way I'd allow my daughters to be in pageants and of course there's no spray tanning, waxing, etc. going on here either.

Sarah said...

See part of my is completely horrified as is pretty clear in my spray tan rant but I also know that there are kids who probably love it. PB is one of those kids who wants to dress to the 9's on a daily basis & is such a ham she would love it. She was in a fashion show when she was little and she strutted through the luncheon waving and saying "hi" (she was under 3 at the time) and it was a complete gag. So I get that aspect I just honestly don't get the stuff that is a)dangerous or b)brings your child to tears. It takes all kinds of people to make the world spin though

Susan said...

If it's something fun that the parent and child do together, that's cool. The key word is FUN, though. If it stops being fun for the child, then the activity has run it's course. I feel the same for sports and other activities, too. If you're doing it because everybody is having a good time, and if you win or lose doesn't matter in the least, well knock yourself out.

As for the spray tan, um, no.